Comments on: Push Back – Part Thirteen

By: gijane02

gijane02 — Thu, 29 Aug 2013 14:34:43 +0000

Carina,

I pray that you and your son will continue to have a bond that gets stronger and stronger. I can tell you it's hard sometimes and I am constantly reworking the buget, but you CAN stay at home. I am new to really embracing it fully, but with a third child on the way, child care would eat up all of my paycheck and half of my husbands. I pray that just as brother Herrin posted you keep seeking the Father on it and He will take care of you. You be encouraged sister, God bless.

By: Unknown

Unknown — Thu, 29 Aug 2013 03:42:49 +0000

I wanted to add something about childbirth pain.
When I was pregnant I learned from one of the ladies in my church that she'd delivered five babies through natural birth without experiencing any pain during contractions. Of course, I prayed a lot to have the same experience!
While I was going through the one-per-minute induced contractions, I experienced all the natural pain heightened by the drug, and cried out to God, Why? What's the point? I thought I was going to die! And the Holy Spirit brought to mind the story of Rachel calling her second child Ben Oni. And I had the most profound revelation of Scripture ever.
The Lord said to me, I'm having you experience this pain because pain and love are so interrelated. When Rachel called her son Ben Oni she was not complaining about how much she had suffered. She was telling her newborn, I suffered a lot but I did it for you, and you were so worth it, and I die so that you can live, and I don't regret having wanted you!
And then the Holy Spirit brought me to the Cross. It was God the Father telling me He also bore His spiritual children through the unbelievable pain of having to forsake His only begotten Son and seeing Him suffer the unthinkable.
Believe me, this moment of understanding was worth years of Bible study! It was a glorious lesson in God's love.
I honestly believe, from my experience, that experiencing childbirth pains makes a woman love her child much much more and gives her a special understanding of what God, not just the Son but also the Father, must have suffered (and I believe the Bible supports my belief that God does experience pain) to carry out our salvation.

By: Unknown

Unknown — Thu, 29 Aug 2013 02:43:20 +0000

Hi again,
There are many things in this post I can relate to.
After the C-section I never wanted in the same place, I lost a lot of blood and almost fainted. I could just look at my newborn and had no strength to even hold him. They took him away from me and gave him back a couple of hours later (again, this is terrible because experts say the best way to make sure babies get a good start in breastfeeding is putting the newborn to the breast within the first hour, if possible immediately after birth!).
I tried many, many times to get him to accept my breast, with little result. I experienced post-partum depression, because I felt a total failure as a mother. I bought a breast pump and started to extract milk manually so that milk production would not stop… and continued for 10 full months. At least I could give him my own milk with the bottle (and used formula as a supplement).
Because of my depression and breastfeeding woes, my baby became more attached to his dad than to me (he still is to this day), even though I didn't work during the first year of his life. When I came back to work many hours outside my home, my little boy (3 years old by then) experienced a period when he said things like I was not his real mother, that he loved daddy but not me, that I was bad. And also, and I hope he did this just to cause a reaction, at one point he started to say, I'm not a boy, I'm a girl. I prayed a lot and because of these things I decided to always try to be home when my son is at home (that means working and earning much less!) and work at improving the bond. Things have improved dramatically, but I still worry about my son's future sexual identity.
My husband has been employed on and off since my boy's birth, so at times he spends more time with our son than me. I can't complain because he's been an unbelievable help, but I'm hoping things will go back to a biblical order!
Honestly, if I had a choice at all, I would so want to be a homemaker, but right now we can't afford it, even selling the car.

By: Deborah

Deborah — Wed, 28 Aug 2013 23:21:46 +0000

Joseph,
As I was reading your paragraphs which discussed things you regret and the fact you had no teachers to give good counsel, I too can relate to these things. Yet I count it all joy, that Yahweh has allowed me to live to see these things for the sin, the disobedience they represent and to repent of them. He is allowing me like you, to learn from these things and be able to teach and instruct others so they do not make the same mistakes. Yahweh, in his great love and mercy toward us will restore all things that have been lost, robbed and stolen. I most eagerly and earnestly await His continued and complete full restoration.

Deborah